We typically offer a number Grief Programs throughout the year, and we hope to be getting back to offering our Grief Bingo, our monthly lunch meetings, and our one-one-grief counseling sessions, and more, soon.

In the meantime, we’re offering Grieving in a Crisis brought to you by our own Cole Warner. Every week, Cole is sharing helpful advice about how you can better manage grief as you shelter in place. His advice comes in the form of a short video, and helpful exercises you can do on your own.

Setting Goals During Grief (Thursday, May 21, 2020)

We all have unique qualities and strengths. We often feel helpless or a lack of control when it comes to grief, but that’s not entirely true. While grieving is natural and takes time, we can use our inner strengths and characteristics to help work through our grief. This exercise is meant for you to build your own version of what strength is and how this inner resource can be used to help you during this time.

Setting goals during grief

Grief often brings along low motivation. With that, finding the energy to accomplish important or even daily things can be difficult. It is important to set small, yet attainable goals. During a pandemic, this becomes even more important. This week we discuss reasonable goal setting and the overall benefits it can have on your grief process.

Posted by Hospice of Davidson County on Thursday, May 21, 2020

Finding Your Strength (Thursday, May 14, 2020)

Watch Cole’s video to learn how you may be stronger than you think!

We all have unique qualities and strengths. We often feel helpless or a lack of control when it comes to grief, but that’s not entirely true. While grieving is natural and takes time, we can use our inner strengths and characteristics to help work through our grief. This exercise is meant for you to build your own version of what strength is and how this inner resource can be used to help you during this time.

Strengths and Qualities Exercise

  • What does strength mean to you?
  • What Strengths or Qualities do you have? Think of four or five, and write them down.
  • How can you use these strengths and qualities to accept your loss?

Grieving During a Holiday/Mother's Day (Thursday, May 7, 2020)

Grieving during any holiday can be difficult. Mother’s Day is no exception. People can experience emotional pain, such as sadness, anger, or longing. Social withdraw or detachment from others is also common. Below are some tips to honor, and engage in mother’s day in a way that is special, and meaningful.

  • Write her letters, or scrapbook memories of your mother
  • Cook her favorite meal, or grab takeout from her favorite restaurant
  • Visit her gravesite
  • Make a donation to a charity in her name
  • Plant a garden or flowers in her memory
  • Call or video chat a family member or friend and share stories of her

Watch Cole’s video identifying emotions and listening.

Working Through Grief Surrounding Mother's Day

Grieving during any holiday can be difficult. Mother’s day is no exception. People can experience emotional pain, such as sadness, anger, or longing. Social withdraw or detachment from others is also common. Bereavement Counselor & Program Coordinator, Cole Warner shares some tips to honor, and engage in mother’s day in a way that is special, and meaningful.

Posted by Hospice of Davidson County on Thursday, May 7, 2020

Recognizing Feelings, and Actively Listening to Others (Thursday, April 30, 2020)

Watch Cole’s video identifying emotions and listening.

Recognition of feelings and how it relates to ourselves and others

Watch as Bereavement Counselor & Program Coordinator, Cole Warner discusses the recognition of feelings and how it relates to ourselves and active listening with others.

Posted by Hospice of Davidson County on Thursday, April 30, 2020

Cole discusses the recognition of feelings and how it relates to ourselves and active listening with others.

Hand Model of the Brain (Thursday, April 23, 2020)

Cole demonstrates Dr. Siegel’s “Hand Model of the Brain.” The purpose of this model is to bring awareness and understanding to what happens in our brain when traumatic, or extremely stressful events happen.

Grief reactions can sometimes be seen in what this model shows. It’s helpful to understand our emotions and reactions, in order to help to regulate them. This model is also very simple and can be helpful for children.

Watch Cole’s video about trauma and the brain.

Posted by Hospice of Davidson County on Thursday, April 23, 2020

Processing Emotions In Your Grief Journey (Thursday, April 15, 2020)

Watch Cole’s video, and then complete the following activity.

This week’s activity is surrounding symbols of hope. Whether it’s a song, animal, quote, place, etc. that is healing or comforting for you.

Look at the questions below, and take a few moments to answer each one. This exercise is for you and your journey. There are many different symbols, these are just a few examples of things that have special meaning to people during their grief journey.

  • Name and describe a symbol that has special significance, or brings comfort, hope, or peace to you. (Song, animal, place, quote, video, spiritual verse or saying, etc.)
  • What does this mean to you?
  • How can you apply it?
  • What is important about this symbol?

Come back next Thursday for our new tip for Grieving In A Crisis.

Self-Compassion Reminders (Thursday, April 2, 2020)

It’s important to remember to have self-compassion and setting realistic expectations of ourselves and using positive reactions to our circumstances. Below are some tips to keep in mind during this time.

Practice Mindfulness

  • Be aware of when we are stressed so that we can take steps to reduce it.
  • Identify and examine what is really stressful and too difficult for us to handle.
  • Be careful of and attempt to balance our consumption of negative stories.

Self-Kindness

  • Set realistic expectations for your circumstances.
  • Allow for things to not go as planned.
  • Instead of being critical, use positive thoughts and affirmations.

Connect Through Shared Experiences

  • Use empathy for ourselves and others during this crisis.
  • Remember that we are in a “shared emotional experience” just as much as we are making changes to our daily lives.
  • Find ways to encourage and support ourselves and those around us.

Grief and Loss Journaling Exercise (Thursday, March 26, 2020)

In times like these, having a support system makes a big difference in the way we feel. Going through grief and loss can only make this even more difficult. When life doesn’t seem to make sense, we look to others to help us feel better. How can we do this during a time of isolation?

As we all “shelter in place,” feelings of isolation can be overwhelming. Feeling alone is a normal part of the grief process. If you feel alone, it is not something that needs to be “fixed” or “changed”. Your grief is valid and is deserving of your attention.

Below is a journaling exercise for you to do by writing to these prompts:

        • I am grieving because…
        • The hardest part of the day is…
        • I feel this way becasue…
        • My support system includes…
        • The thing I miss the most is…
        • The most helpful things people say to me are…
        • It is hurtful when people say these things to me…
        • What am I thinking about when I can’t fall asleep…
        • I’ve been feeling a lot of…
        • Today, I miss this the most...

Self-Care Tips

It’s important to remember to have self-compassion and setting realistic expectations of ourselves and using positive reactions to our circumstances. Below are some tips to keep in mind during this time.

Posted by Hospice of Davidson County on Thursday, April 2, 2020

Watch this video by Cole, one of our Grief Counselors, and then follow these useful tips.

Building the capacity to de-stress and self-regulate in healthy ways will help us deal effectively with those overwhelming feelings during the grief process. Below are a few tips. This list is not all encompassing and I encourage you to come up with other healthy and effective ways of reducing stress and taking care of yourself during this crisis.

Health

  • Take a walk in and savor our lovely Spring weather
  • Join a virtual workout
  • Eat healthy
  • Keep a loose routine

Relaxation

  • Read a book
  • Binge a new series
  • Practice mindfulness or meditation
  • Spend quiet time outside

Companionship

  • Call a loved one
  • Use FaceTime or video chat to virtually meet for coffee

Expression

  • Draw or paint something special
  • Start a garden
  • Free write