The COVID-19 pandemic has changed how we work, how we live, and especially how we grieve. We can change some things, like how we shop, or how we engage others face-to-face through social distancing. But grief doesn’t change. If you’ve recently lost a loved one, you know that the grief you’re facing is real, and nothing about COVID-19 is changing that.

Through this page, you can view weekly videos created by Hospice of Davidson County Bereavement Counselor & Program Coordinator Cole Warner. You can also watch his videos live every Thursday at 10 a.m. on our Facebook page.

Make a Memorial Ornament, Wreath or Decoration (Thursday, Nov. 19, 2020)

A wonderful way to honor your loved one is with a memorial ornament to place on your tree, a wreath to place in your home or other decoration to brighten your spirits.

Start with a plain ornament, and apply glitter, beads or other decorative elements to personalize it. A great way to honor memories is with a photograph cut and glued onto your ornament, or simply write your loved one’s name across the ornament. Decorating a wreath with photos of your loved one is another great way to share memories and joy in the holiday season.

Another option for a decoration is a decorated framed photo, with glitter, beads or well wishes written onto the frame.

Creating A Memory Stocking (Thursday, Nov. 12, 2020)

A touching way to honor memories of your loved one this holiday season is with a memory stocking. Watch Cole’s video to learn more, then check out the activity below.

 

• First, take a holiday stocking and decorate it with the name of your loved one.

 

•Then, you and your guests can take turns writing down memories and special moments spent with your loved one, on small pieces of paper.

 

•Place the small pieces of paper into the stocking.

 

•Decide on a time when the stocking can be opened and the memory papers read aloud to your guests, as you all honor the good times spent with your loved one.

 

 

Remembering A Loved During The Holidays (Thursday, Nov. 5, 2020)

When you lose someone, it doesn’t just impact you. There are other family members who are also grieving. Now is a good time to be less rigid with yourself and others, to be kind to each other, and to acknowledge rituals you may have.

Personal Connections During the Holidays (Thursday, Oct. 29, 2020)

In this installment, Cole discusses becoming aware of your emotions and how you may sometimes mislabel them or direct them in a way that’s not helpful or accurate to how we actually feel.

Beginning A Series Grief During the Holidays (Thursday, Oct. 22, 2020)

Today, Bereavement Counselor & Program Coordinator Cole Warner begins a six week program sharing tips to help us navigate grief through the holidays.

Healing Through Unanswered Questions After Loss (Thursday, October 15, 2020)

Today, Cole discusses our awareness of emotions and how we can sometimes mislabel them or direct them in a way that’s not helpful or accurate to how we actually feel.

Healing Through Unanswered Questions After Loss (Thursday, October 1, 2020)

Hospice of Davidson County Bereavement Counselor & Program Coordinator Cole Warner addresses finding healing through some of the questions that often remain unanswered after a loss.

Changing Our World View In Grief (Thursday, September 24, 2020)

In this installment of Grieving In A Crisis, Bereavement Counselor & Program Coordinator Cole Warner discusses grief changing our world view and trust of others. We look at this through the lens of complicated grief.

Reflection Exercise (Thursday, September 10, 2020)

We typically offer a number Grief Programs throughout the year, and we hope to be getting back to offering our Grief Bingo, our monthly lunch meetings, and our one-one-grief counseling sessions, and more, soon.

In the meantime, we’re offering Grieving in a Crisis brought to you by our own Cole Warner. Every week, Cole is sharing helpful advice about how you can better manage grief as you shelter in place. His advice comes in the form of a short video, and helpful exercises you can do on your own.

Unfinished Business, continued (Thursday, September 3, 2020)

In this week’s installment, Hospice of Davidson County Bereavement Counselor & Program Coordinator Cole Warner continues discussing unresolved issues in grieving the loss of someone who you had a difficult or conflicting relationship with.

Unfinished Business (Thursday, August 27, 2020)

In this week’s installment, Hospice of Davidson County Bereavement Counselor & Program Coordinator Cole Warner talks about unfinished business with grief, particularly forgiveness of ourselves and others.

Caregiver Burnout (Thursday, August 20, 2020)

Cole discusses the overwhelming aspects of caregiver burnout, signs and symptoms of stress overload and tips for ways to prevent, streamline and alleviate the effects.

Comparing Loss to Others (Thursday, August 13, 2020)

Cole discusses the challenge and pitfalls of comparing your loss and your reaction to other people’s loss. We all experience loss and grief differently, and that’s okay. If you’re grieving a loss, or know someone who is, watch this video!

The Messages We Receive Around Grief (Thursday, August 6, 2020)

In this week’s video, Cole discusses how messages can be handed down to us by family, or past experiences. They are often unspoken and learned through the actions of others. They can be surrounding anything from how to handle emotions, to specific behaviors or rituals.

When Priorities Change (Thursday, July 30, 2020)

In this week’s video, Cole discusses grief and when your priorities begin to change, regaining relationships with yourself, your family, your spirituality and more.

Managing Depression (Thursday, July 23, 2020)

In this week’s video, Cole discusses grief and depression and the ways you can work to manage your depression.

The Long-Term Effects of Grief (Thursday, July 16, 2020)

In this week’s video, Cole discusses the long-term health effects of chronic grief, and how you can work to manage that grief. Chronic grief can take a toll on your immune system and other vital health systems. Please watch this video to get informed.

The Different Manifestations of Grief (Thursday, July 9, 2020)

In this week’s video, Cole talking about recognizing our grief in its different manifestations physical, emotional, social, and spiritual. In it, invites you to write down how you express grief physically, emotionally, socially, and spiritually.

Accepting a New Reality (Thursday, July 2, 2020)

On the June 11th post, Cole focused on losing one’s identity after the death of a spouse or loved one is very common. This week, he added more things for you to think about related to this very critical part of grief, including accepting a new reality.

Working Through Guilt and Regret (Thursday, June 25, 2020)

Hospice of Davidson County Bereavement Counselor & Program Coordinator, Cole Warner discusses guilt and regret in grief. Self-blame and regret play a large role in our grief process, especially early on. Watch Cole’s video to gain more insight on some of what you may be experiencing.

Grieving During a Holiday / Father’s Day (Thursday, June 18, 2020)

Grieving during any holiday can be difficult. Father’s Day is no exception. People can experience emotional pain, such as sadness, anger, or longing. Social withdrawal or detachment from others is also common.

Bereavement Counselor & Program Coordinator, Cole Warner shares some tips to honor, and engage in Father’s Day in a way that is special, and meaningful.

Loss of Identity (Thursday, June 11, 2020)

Losing one’s identity after the death of a spouse or loved one is very common.  It’s one of the challenges many people face when the structure of their life changes dramatically with a loss.

Watch Cole’s video to learn more.

The Benefits of Accepting Support When Grieving (Thursday, June 4, 2020)

If you know someone who is grieving, offering support in the right ways can make a lot of difference in that person’s life. If you are grieving, it’s important to know that accepting support from others can be incredibly helpful in helping you move forward, too. Watch Cole’s video to learn more. We also have a lot of great information right here on our website!

Gratitude and Grief (Thursday, May 28, 2020)

Gratitude can be an excellent coping mechanism during grief. It might seem difficult to be grateful during such intense emotions, but it is actually something that can help you process your grief in a productive way.

Watch Cole’s video to learn more.

Setting Goals During Grief (Thursday, May 21, 2020)

We all have unique qualities and strengths. We often feel helpless or a lack of control when it comes to grief, but that’s not entirely true. While grieving is natural and takes time, we can use our inner strengths and characteristics to help work through our grief. This exercise is meant for you to build your own version of what strength is and how this inner resource can be used to help you during this time.

Finding Your Strength (Thursday, May 14, 2020)

We all have unique qualities and strengths. We often feel helpless or a lack of control when it comes to grief, but that’s not entirely true. While grieving is natural and takes time, we can use our inner strengths and characteristics to help work through our grief. This exercise is meant for you to build your own version of what strength is and how this inner resource can be used to help you during this time.

Strengths and Qualities Exercise

  • What does strength mean to you?
  • What Strengths or Qualities do you have? Think of four or five, and write them down.
  • How can you use these strengths and qualities to accept your loss?

Watch Cole’s video to learn how you may be stronger than you think!

Grieving During a Holiday / Mother’s Day (Thursday, May 7, 2020)

Grieving during any holiday can be difficult. Mother’s Day is no exception. People can experience emotional pain, such as sadness, anger, or longing. Social withdraw or detachment from others is also common. Below are some tips to honor, and engage in mother’s day in a way that is special, and meaningful.

  • Write her letters, or scrapbook memories of your mother
  • Cook her favorite meal, or grab takeout from her favorite restaurant
  • Visit her gravesite
  • Make a donation to a charity in her name
  • Plant a garden or flowers in her memory
  • Call or video chat a family member or friend and share stories of her