Before the COVID Pandemic, Hospice of Davidson County offered several face-to-face opportunities for those mourning the loss of a loved one to learn about managing their grief. This included one-on-one counseling as well as several options for participating in group activities. We hope someday soon to resume these services, and we do offer grief counseling over the phone.

Until we offer all of our services again,  Cole Warner, our Bereavement Counselor & Program Coordinator has created a series of short videos for you to learn about coping with grief.

For those who have visited this page before, we are moving to our Community Connections podcast format where you can learn about a variety of topics. Upcoming episodes include managing grief. Click here to learn more.

Creating Space For People Who Are Grieving

When we know someone is grieving, we’re often quick to offer advice. It is important to be mindful that someone who is in a lot of emotional pain may not be in a place to receive your advice.

No two people experience grief the same way. As we head into the holidays, if you know someone who is grieving, reach out to him or her. Support that person with a kind word, or phone call. Let them talk. Let them feel what they are feeling.

Reminder: The next Virtual Support Group is Dec. 14. Click here to register.

Grieving During The Holidays Series Continues

Today, Cole shares an article from NPR by Poet Tracy K. Smith On Grief In The Holidays And ‘Different Vocabularies For Feeling: Click here.

Reminder: The next Virtual Support Group is Dec. 14. Click here to register.

Grieving During The Holidays – Kid-Friendly Activities

Kids mourn, too! Cole offers some tips on how you can encourage them to participate in an activity that helps them process some of their grief.

Creating A Memory Stocking

Today, Cole shares how to make a memory stocking: A touching way to honor memories of your loved one this holiday season is with a memory stocking.
  • First, take a holiday stocking and decorate it with the name of your loved one.
  • Then, you and your guests can take turns writing down memories and special moments spent with your loved one, on small pieces of paper.
  • Place the small pieces of paper into the stocking.
  • Decide on a time when the stocking can be opened and the memory papers read aloud to your guests, as you all honor the good times spent with your loved one.

 

Grieving During The Holidays: Family Activities

Listen as Cole discusses family rituals and activities families can do to remember or honor their loved one during the holidays.

Grieving During The Holidays

Today, Cole discusses our personal connection with our loved ones during the holidays. He also touches on issues and the different ways people can work through these times.

Grieving During The Holidays

In today’s installment, Cole begins a several week series of Grieving During The Holidays. If you, a friend, or your entire family is missing someone special this year, watch this series to learn some helpful tips that may make your grieving a little easier.

Identifying Emotions

In this installment, Cole discusses becoming aware of your emotions and how you may sometimes mislabel them or direct them in a way that’s not helpful or accurate to how we actually feel.

Healing Through Unanswered Questions After Loss

Hospice of Davidson County Bereavement Counselor & Program Coordinator Cole Warner addresses finding healing through some of the questions that often remain unanswered after a loss.

Changing Our World View In Grief

In this installment of Grieving In A Crisis, Bereavement Counselor & Program Coordinator Cole Warner discusses grief changing our world view and trust of others. We look at this through the lens of complicated grief.

Reflection Exercise

We typically offer a number Grief Programs throughout the year, and we hope to be getting back to offering our Grief Bingo, our monthly lunch meetings, and our one-one-grief counseling sessions, and more, soon.

In the meantime, we’re offering Grieving in a Crisis brought to you by our own Cole Warner. Every week, Cole is sharing helpful advice about how you can better manage grief as you shelter in place. His advice comes in the form of a short video, and helpful exercises you can do on your own.

Unfinished Business - Continued

In this week’s installment, Hospice of Davidson County Bereavement Counselor & Program Coordinator Cole Warner continues discussing unresolved issues in grieving the loss of someone who you had a difficult or conflicting relationship with.

Unfinished Business - Part 1

In this week’s installment, Hospice of Davidson County Bereavement Counselor & Program Coordinator Cole Warner talks about unfinished business with grief, particularly forgiveness of ourselves and others.

Caregiver Burnout

Cole discusses the overwhelming aspects of caregiver burnout, signs and symptoms of stress overload and tips for ways to prevent, streamline and alleviate the effects.

Comparing Loss to Others

Cole discusses the challenge and pitfalls of comparing your loss and your reaction to other people’s loss. We all experience loss and grief differently, and that’s okay. If you’re grieving a loss, or know someone who is, watch this video!

The Messages We Receive Around Grief

In this week’s video, Cole discusses how messages can be handed down to us by family, or past experiences. They are often unspoken and learned through the actions of others. They can be surrounding anything from how to handle emotions, to specific behaviors or rituals.

When Priorities Change

In this week’s video, Cole discusses grief and when your priorities begin to change, regaining relationships with yourself, your family, your spirituality and more.

Managing Depression

In this week’s video, Cole discusses grief and depression and the ways you can work to manage your depression.

The Long-Term Effects of Grief

In this week’s video, Cole discusses the long-term health effects of chronic grief, and how you can work to manage that grief. Chronic grief can take a toll on your immune system and other vital health systems. Please watch this video to get informed.

The Different Manifestations of Grief

In this week’s video, Cole talking about recognizing our grief in its different manifestations physical, emotional, social, and spiritual. In it, invites you to write down how you express grief physically, emotionally, socially, and spiritually.

Accepting a New Reality

On the June 11th post, Cole focused on losing one’s identity after the death of a spouse or loved one is very common. This week, he added more things for you to think about related to this very critical part of grief, including accepting a new reality.

Working Through Guilt and Regret

Hospice of Davidson County Bereavement Counselor & Program Coordinator, Cole Warner discusses guilt and regret in grief. Self-blame and regret play a large role in our grief process, especially early on. Watch Cole’s video to gain more insight on some of what you may be experiencing.

Grieving During a Holiday / Father’s Day

Grieving during any holiday can be difficult. Father’s Day is no exception. People can experience emotional pain, such as sadness, anger, or longing. Social withdrawal or detachment from others is also common.

Bereavement Counselor & Program Coordinator, Cole Warner shares some tips to honor, and engage in Father’s Day in a way that is special, and meaningful.

Loss of Identity

Losing one’s identity after the death of a spouse or loved one is very common.  It’s one of the challenges many people face when the structure of their life changes dramatically with a loss.

Watch Cole’s video to learn more.

The Benefits of Accepting Support When Grieving

If you know someone who is grieving, offering support in the right ways can make a lot of difference in that person’s life. If you are grieving, it’s important to know that accepting support from others can be incredibly helpful in helping you move forward, too. Watch Cole’s video to learn more. We also have a lot of great information right here on our website!

Gratitude and Grief

Gratitude can be an excellent coping mechanism during grief. It might seem difficult to be grateful during such intense emotions, but it is actually something that can help you process your grief in a productive way.

Watch Cole’s video to learn more.

Setting Goals During Grief

We all have unique qualities and strengths. We often feel helpless or a lack of control when it comes to grief, but that’s not entirely true. While grieving is natural and takes time, we can use our inner strengths and characteristics to help work through our grief. This exercise is meant for you to build your own version of what strength is and how this inner resource can be used to help you during this time.

Finding Your Strength

We all have unique qualities and strengths. We often feel helpless or a lack of control when it comes to grief, but that’s not entirely true. While grieving is natural and takes time, we can use our inner strengths and characteristics to help work through our grief. This exercise is meant for you to build your own version of what strength is and how this inner resource can be used to help you during this time.

Strengths and Qualities Exercise

  • What does strength mean to you?
  • What Strengths or Qualities do you have? Think of four or five, and write them down.
  • How can you use these strengths and qualities to accept your loss?

Watch Cole’s video to learn how you may be stronger than you think!

Grieving During a Holiday / Mother’s Day

Grieving during any holiday can be difficult. Mother’s Day is no exception. People can experience emotional pain, such as sadness, anger, or longing. Social withdraw or detachment from others is also common. Below are some tips to honor, and engage in mother’s day in a way that is special, and meaningful.

  • Write her letters, or scrapbook memories of your mother
  • Cook her favorite meal, or grab takeout from her favorite restaurant
  • Visit her gravesite
  • Make a donation to a charity in her name
  • Plant a garden or flowers in her memory
  • Call or video chat a family member or friend and share stories of her